Working out. Should you do it? Most people say yes. But why? For me, working out has been a real mixed bag. I was overweight in high school and going to the gym was horrific. It was pretty much a chance to see how much fatter I was than everyone else.
In college, I went through stints of working out, followed by intense weight gain and shame.
Then, I stopped even thinking about exercise for a few years. Meanwhile, I had an office job and got very soft, physically. Like, arms were rolls of Pillsbury crescent dough. On the bright side, I became more comfortable with my body. I started working out again because I wanted to.
That was the key. I did it because I wanted to, not because I thought I had to, not for my parents or anyone else, but for me.
So many people, including myself, start fitness programs for reasons besides the fact they want to. While it’s possible for these to succeed, it’s hard to keep it going in the long term. Resentment will start to build and it will feel good to quit.
Don’t exercise unless it’s something that you want to be doing, and definitely don’t do it just to lose weight because it is not the most effective way to do that. To lose weight, stop eating bread. Seriously.
Also, feeling like you want to do something is different from actually wanting to do it. For example, I might not feel like calling my Mom, but I love having a mom who loves me. So I want to call her. Okay maybe that’s not a great example, but you get my point.